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Regardless of your dispute with the other parent, your child needs assurance that both parents love him or her. A child needs affirmation that he or she is not to blame for the parent's break-up and that he or she willl still be allowed to see the other parent without reprisal.
Generally, a child will continue to need time and attention from both parents. Younger children mostly should not have to choose between one or the other parent. However older children may have a preference, which the court may consider in making a determination for custody. FC 3042 provides that the court may consider the "intelligent preference" of a child of sufficient "age and capacity."
A non-parent might become the personal guardian of a minor child by bringing a guardianship action in the probate court. Although brought in probate court, and not family court, the custody standards applicable to a family law action are made applicable to a guardianship of the person action by reference to the Family Code.
An adoption generally involves the termination of parental rights of a biological parent, while the court issues an order of adoption declaring the child the adopted child of the adoptive parent.